Posted by peskypippi | Posted in Advice, Childrearing, Children, Daughters, Life Lessons, Mom Time, Mother, Mothering, Mothers and Daughters | Posted on 08-05-2013
My daughter learned three life lessons this week.
And I was reminded that I often blurt things out without consulting The Proper Parenting Handbook.
Here’s what happened.
My daughter came home upset that she wasn’t invited to her friend’s upcoming birthday party.
- “What?!” I shrieked. “But you guys play all the time!”
- “Yeah,” she said sadly. “She just didn’t want to invite ME.”
- “What a little bitch!” I said.
Lesson one: Ten-year-old girls can be bitches too.
Another day after school, my daughter came home even more upset that her puka shell necklace–her prized $3 purchase from our trip to Hawaii–broke into 200 puka shell pieces. She was planning to wear it all year, to remember our wonderful family vacation. A boy had grabbed her necklace from her neck (!), sending puka shells scattering.
- “What an asshole!” I exclaimed. “Let’s get him to apologize.” That seemed to make her feel better.
Lesson two: Calling someone an asshole for asshole behavior automatically makes you feel better.
- And I offered, “Oh, Sweetie, I know that was special to you. I could buy you another one but it wouldn’t be the same, would it?”
- “No,” she lamented. “That was my special necklace.”
Lesson three: Some valuable things can’t be replaced, because the value is in the memories.
I may not say all the right things. I may say some very wrong things. But I always try to talk things out with my daughter. Even if an obscenity pops out from time to time.