Posted by peskypippi | Posted in Celebrations, Childrearing, Children, Mothering, Mothers and Daughters, Parenting | Posted on 24-08-2012
I read an article called 10 Things You Should Never Tell Your Kids. After clicking through the 10 things (while holding my breath), I was relieved to learn that I am off the hook on this one. This time. Whew. Except for one.
The article says that you should never tell your kids “you’re the best at [blank].” For example:
- “You’re so smart!”
- “You’re the best at soccer!”
- “You’re an excellent swimmer!”
If you say those things, you’ve thus labeled your child. And your child may only feel worse for not living up to the label you’ve given her. The article cautions to “focus instead on her hard work.”
And so, at a recent swim race (which was to win a pizza), I tried to put this advice into practice.
- “What strokes!”
- “Great effort!”
I was trying to focus on the hard work my daughter has done after a whole summer of swim lessons. And after woohooing and cheering my butt off–I couldn’t help it–she won.
Afterward, I told her that she’s the best pizza winner in the world!
Oops. According to this article, I’m wrong again.