Posted by peskypippi | Posted in Attitude, Communication, Connections, Relationships | Posted on 12-07-2012
Tags: caring, conversation, empathy, friends, manners, relationship, talking
Sometimes I think people don’t really wanna care what you have to say…take a few basic-conversation questions:
- How was your vacation?
- How is work going for you?
- How are the kids?
Does the other person really want to know about your vacation? That you had potato skins as an appetizer, that your hotel comforter was comfy, and that you had perfect weather? No.
Does the other person really want to know about your work? That you’re working too many hours, that your deadlines are crazy, and your boss is cranky? No.
Does the other person really want to know about your kids? That one child had an eye infection, one got a B+ in science, and the other skipped to the next level in swimming? No.
I think people are so entrenched in their own lives that they don’t really
want to hear much of anything care about the other person. What they really wanna hear is simply:
- How was your vacation? Great!
- How is work going for you? Busy!
- How are the kids? Happy!
And…you’re done. No time for details. No interest in two-way conversations. Where did the empathy go? It’s now sometimes more like a check-off-your-list: did I ask and did they answer? Check.
I think some people have forgotten their manners. Forgotten how to converse. Forgotten how to listen. Forgotten to care.