Posted by peskypippi | Posted in Animals, Birth, Childrearing, Connections, Encouragement, Family, Ideas, Life Lessons, Love, Relationships, Women | Posted on 18-11-2011
Tags: birds and bees, birth, miracle, sex
I remember thinking awhile back: Crap, that birds-and-the-bees talk is gonna be a tough one.
Well, for us–and most parents–it’s not just one talk. It shouldn’t be just one. It’s part of everyday conversations. It’s a part of LIFE.
- We go to the zoo. Bam. The chimpanzees are humping. Right in front of us. And there’s the mandrill male with the red butt, that apparently is used to woo the ladies.
- A robin’s egg dropped in our back yard last Spring. We left it untouched so that Mama bird would come back and get it. She never did.
- My daughter’s hamster–seemingly so innocent and furry–had the most gigantic balls. You couldn’t help but look. Hamster : balls ratio = wow!
A friend of mine recently gave birth. On the way to school, we were planning our after-school visit to visit her and her newborn. Here is how the conversation went
6yo Son: “Mom, do babies come out of butts?”
Me: “No, honey, they come out of women’s vaginas.”
6yo Son: “Eeewww.”
This prompted a conversation about all kinds of mothers. Monkeys. Elephants. Dolphins. Dogs. Whales. Humans. And the miracle of birth. And kind of how it all works. At a basic level.
By the time we got to school, we had covered a lot of ground about birth and life and the miracles that babies are.
And as my kids were yelling, “Good-bye!” and “I love you!”…they left the car knowing that they are miracles.
And that, my friend, is a good, positive, and loving message to leave your children with.